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If you'd like to contact me: TMF222@YAHOO.COM Good Places September 22, 2005 - 5:17 pm My last post got more of a response than I've ever received about the entire website. Wow! I'm so surprised at everything that's happened because I wrote what I wrote.I let my buddy at work read it first. I didn't feel like it was rude, but my co-worker is one of my more religious friends, and I wanted to see her reaction. Her reaction was positive, and it provoked more religious conversations between the two of us. I've become really interested in different religions, and so my friend brought in some booklets about Jehovah's Witnesses for me to read. And I'm planning to attend services with her some Sunday. Another one of my more religious friends contacted me the next day. She responded to the part I wrote about homosexuality. It was one of the best emails I've ever read. Not only was her perspective extremely positive, but it was written in such an elegant way. I wish I could post it, so the world could benefit from her positive words, but they aren't my words, so it wouldn't be right. However, I knew a close friend of mine, who happens to be gay, would appreciate it. After I got permission, I forwarded the email on. I mentioned to my friend that he should read my website so he could see what the email was in response to. He loved my friend's email, and he loved my post. He told me that I was poetic, and he congratulated me on having the courage to open up and share my thoughts. He said he really felt my words, and that he was so glad to have me in his life. He felt that what I said was something he was going through too, and our other friends as well. He then proceeded to text all of our friends telling them that they needed to read my website. I didn't tell him to do this. He just felt that I'd said it perfectly. I wasn't going to stop the free 'publicity' he was giving me, because I love what I wrote. However, I definitely didn't predict what happened next! One friend contacted me and told me I was amazing. He said that I was an amazing person, and an amazing friend. He said that he knew exactly what I was talking about. He gave me a really big hug later on that night at his party, and repeated his praising words. The friend that I was referring to when I said "this post has been brought on mostly because a friend of mine constantly judges me about my views" ended up reading it, and knew I was talking about her. She ended up taking the whole post personally, and we had a pretty vicious fight. The fight was very loud, and we were still fighting when the sun came up. Although it didn't end on a positive note, there were some things said that really made me think. It was an extremely helpful fight, and I'd like to think she felt it was helpful too, in some way. A few days after our fight we came back to the subject. It was awkward to talk about it at first, but I needed to make sure we were ok. I apologized if I hurt her feelings or caused her any grief, because that wasn't my intention. And she apologized for making me think she was judging me. Regardless if she was or wasn't, that's the way I felt. And what she said was the way she felt. And ever since then, I feel like our friendship has reached a new level. We'd never really had a fight before. But we seem to be better than ever! Maybe it's all in my head, but it truly seems like we're being nicer to each other. But not nicer intentionally. It's more of a natural way. And we haven't shied away from talking about certain things, like religion. If anything, we talk more. Again, maybe this is all in my head, but I definitely feel like we're in a good place. And I love it! One more truly wonderful thing has happened since the post, I've reconnected with Bart! The post didn't directly cause our reunion, because it's something that I've wanted to do for quite a while now. But by mentioning his name in the post, I definitely put the energy out there that I was ready to be in his life again (and he in mine). It was definitely weird at first. I hadn't seen him for over a year. But we met in a place that has happy memories, and after the first half-hour or so, the weird-ness started to melt away. I've loved the time we've spent together already, and I'm SOOOOO happy about our reconciliation. |
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